Update – April 11, 6:20pm: Sadly the bike nazis (who are a small minority of cyclists) continue to pound away at me. In fact, they have now degenerated into straight ad hominem attacks. It’s interesting to note that the cyclist I originally had the altercation with is no longer doing that — his posts on the topic the past couple of days have been gentle and constructive. He and I don’t necessarily agree on how all the parts of our altercation came about, but we are completely in agreement that we don’t need to be angry at the other any more and that continued warfare, overall, just ain’t helpful to anyone.
I will no longer approve any comments on this blog post that are about attacking me personally or otherwise not constructive. To be scrupulously fair about this, my ban on unhelpful comments will also extend to car drivers who seek to paint all cyclists as demons to be disrespected and punished.
Overall, I’m deeply saddened that my honest attempt to learn something from a bad situation and to lower the temperature overall continues to be stomped on by the anger-mongers on both sides. For shame!
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The first paragraphs of this piece appear as a teaser on Washington Post’s All Opinions Are Local.
A week ago, I wrote about a traumatic incident I experienced that included having a cyclist feign an accident with me at an intersection. The deluge of feedback (overwhelmingly hostile) I have gotten from the cyclist community has provided a great learning opportunity for me. Perhaps it can also lead to increased understanding on both sides of the car-bike divide.
As I have written, even before last week’s events, I was bike-friendly: believing in the basic principle that bikes have a right to be on the road and to be safe there. Though I have been taken aback by the intensity and anger I have met in the past week, it has not changed my sympathetic view towards bikes on the road. Au contraire!
Some things I’ve learned:
• The cycling community is very tight-knit, hypersensitive to insult or incursion, resistant to giving benefit-of-the-doubt to drivers, and so intensely ideological as to be unable to separate friends from enemies: if you are in a car, you’re bad; if you’re on a bike, you’re good.
• Cyclists have every right to be paranoid and hostile: any interaction between a car and a bike is inherently more dangerous for the cyclist than for the driver. Not only that, but they face the indifference and outright hostility of drivers all the time. Who could blame them for seeing cars (and drivers) as enemies?
• After I came close to the cyclist at the first intersection last week, he moved purposely leftward, so that – even as I was touching the while line to my left – he was coming closer and closer to me. I interpreted his move as purposely aggressive. Cyclists have since pointed out to me that what he was probably trying to do was to “take the lane”: cyclists moving toward the center of the lane are trying to force cars to stay behind them as they approach an intersection, rather than come up alongside. They do this because it puts them in a safer position. I never heard of this idea before, but – whether it is the law or not (which isn’t clear to me) – I intend to respect it from now on.
• Cyclists assume that all drivers know that the law requires cars to stay three feet away and that everyone knows the take-the-lane principle. They view any driver who does not abide by these guidelines as purposely and provocatively breaking the law, i.e., the interaction and their reaction to is not only about safety for them (legitimate as that is), but also about hostile fire in an ongoing war.
• Many cyclists seem unwilling to consider the possibility of flaw among their own, just as they seem unwilling to accept any driver as a potential ally.
So, here’s the “scorecard”:
• I was wrong to come close to the cyclist in the first place. Though it was hardly purposeful on my part, there is no doubt that my action precipitated what happened next.
• The cyclist’s pounding on my window and screaming turned a mistake (on my part) into a conflict.
• His “taking the lane” may have been a reasonable attempt to communicate with me, but it backfired, because I didn’t speak that language. (This was not something covered in drivers ed 35 years ago!)
• He staged an “accident” to score a point in the aggressive game we both assumed the other was playing. (I am absolutely certain that I was nowhere near close enough to hit him; I saw him jerk himself/his bike against my car after I had come to a stop.)
• I should have stayed in my car and called the cops. There can never be any justification for escalating to physical confrontation, no matter how outrageous the provocation may be.
There is an opportunity here. Among the insults I have received from cyclists over the past few days are at least a couple of correspondents who seem interested in discussing these events in a constructive manner. I have lost my patience even with them, because of their apparent need to continue lecturing me even after I’ve “given them the lane” in a conversation that is no longer an argument.
Just the same, I think reasonable cyclists and reasonable drivers could come together to find ways to reduce inbred hostility and to recognize that at least some of the warfare going on is due to misunderstanding and ignorance, as opposed to ill will. I would hope such a conversation would include acknowledgement of the danger that some cyclists (e.g., the infamous bike messengers downtown) pose to pedestrians.
I hereby extend an invitation to any cyclists who are interested in further dialogue to contact me (lefthandview@kberner.us). I would love to help turn this big bucket of lemons into some lemonade.
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Update – 4/9, 9:45am: In his posts on a cycling website, I started to see some introspection on the part of the cyclist and he invited me to call him. So I did. We both acknowledged mistakes and apologized for them. I am proud we got to this constructive point.
As far as I’m concerned, this affair is closed. I’m going to be much more cognizant of how I’m driving around cyclists from now on. And I hope the cycling community, at large, will try to understand that not all drivers are against them. That’s the bottom line here: both “sides” need to endeavor to put themselves in the shoes of the other. Cyclists need to realize that the guidance in cycling safety guides (e.g., “take the lane”) is not something most drivers are aware of. Drivers need to understand that coming too close to a bike — no matter how inadvertent — is not an “inconvenience for he cyclist, but rather a matter of life and death.
I wish safe riding to the man I had a fight with a week ago and safe driving to myself.
PS. I still wish I could find the heroic woman who intervened to stop the fight. I would so much like to thank her. If you have any idea who she might be, please send her my way.
©2011 Keith Berner